You should definitely come out to Vegas. Because of all the other attractions here it could easily be a weekend seminar…a kind of two for one deal. People would get an awesome seminar AND a vacation in Vegas. Not to mention a major opportunity to immediately practice all the valuable info you would be sharing with us! Do it Do it!

From a client’s perspective…

1) What topics, ideas or concepts would really get you excited about an X & Y Communications live event?

>>>>> See below, particularly #4 and #6. The active Q&A/coaching/”boot camp” possibilities, or anything that one could only get face-to-face, would be highly differentiated. Market the event as a great meeting of “white hat” seduction gurus, focused on self-improvement and being (not faking) the person that MOTOS desire.

2) Would you personally be more interested in a single day event or a more intensive one spanning several days?

>>>>> 1-2 days, no more than a weekend, and here’s why…1) “Learning fatigue” sets in after a few hours. Otherwise, people will be deluged with new information and left unsure where to start, or just unable to sit still too long. 2) It can be hard to set aside a full weekend, let alone 3-4 days, for a seminar—particularly if they’re not familiar with your work or “just giving it a whirl” (and not willing to spend valuable vacation days). 3) I organized a few weekend conferences back in my college days, and a lot of students went to one day’s activities but skipped the other. Few will attend every minute of a 4 day conference. 4) A weekend of Saturday seminar-Sat night “practice”-Sunday seminar could give people an opportunity to implement what they’re learning, and an incentive to come back the next day.

3) What would be the best city or cities to hold such an event in? (Be SURE to weigh in for this one, because we’ll base any decisions almost 100% on YOUR input here)

>>>>> Any city with a large young, single population. Any college town. Boston (I’m shamelessly biased) has a huge college student/young professional population. New York, the same to the Nth power—when I lived there, I heard a constant refrain of people unable to meet quality MOTOS. Others may include San Francisco, Chicago, Atlanta, Austin (your neck of the woods).

4) How would you like the hosting structure to be? Would you like me to invite certain VIRTUOSITY guests? Should we always host as a team?

>>>>> Not sure how difficult the logistics would be, but the more the merrier. Of course, Emily would be great. Virtuosity guests that focus on broader topics would make great co-hosts…I loved Amy Waterman’s and Marie Forleo’s stuff (not sure where she’s based out of?), and some guys may respond better to “hearing it from the horse’s mouth.” Sebastian Drake, Joseph W. South, Stephen Nash also pop to mind.

5) Would you like to see events for each respective gender or have them be co-ed?

>>>>> Larger “keynote” events should be co-ed, and focus participants on the oft-forgotten, big-picture fact that men like women and women like men. You’re a great speaker and could inspire confidence and participation from the shy members of the crowd. Who knows, maybe they’ll see some gorgeous MOTOS a few rows over and resolve themselves to approach her! LOL

Smaller events could be single-gender, since the dating experience is different for each gender, and subdivided further (i.e. some men may need to lose their fear of the opposite sex and the dating process, while others may be more interested in perfecting the approach/intro e-mail/etc).

6) What creative ways do you think some major value could be added to the experience?

>>>>> Plenty of opportunity for 1-on-1 face-to-face coaching/Q&A slots with either you or a guest…possibly even a “boot camp” or “guided safari” of sorts from either you or a guest. How much would seminar participants interact with one another?—Could an optional “speed dating” sort of event allow them to connect with/receive feedback from one another? (this would require a gender balance, though).

1) I’d like to see you and your guests pick what you each consider to be your top five to ten most important contributions to the Community–the kind of stuff that you know has created real BREAKTHROUGHS for the men in need–and crystalize it into a repeatable, step-by-step gameplan that your students can implement at any time.

2) Probably a single day event on Saturday with opportunities to meet for a happy-hour type of mixer on Friday night and a half-day Q & A on Sunday for those who desire it.

3) Because Las Vegas has the image of the ultimate devil-may-care fun zone, I agree with Race that Las Vegas would make an excellent choice for your live event. Even Las Vegas’ official slogan (”what happens in Vegas STAYS in Vegas”) seems tailor made for a dating and seduction bootcamp or seminar.

4) Definitely invite Virtuosity guests–that’s where you really shine–when you’re interacting with other dating gurus.

5) Respective gender would be best with opportunities to mingle.

6) Creative ways that would add major value to the experience would include actual demonstration of what you are teaching. For example:

a) If you are teaching online dating, you are going to take a few actual profiles and overhaul it right on stage on the overhead, and explain what you’re doing and way. But that’s not all…you’re also going to go through the process of assessment and selection of potential online dates and craft various first and second emails, on the spot.

b) If you are talking about body language or fashion, you’re going to demonstrate the good, the bad, and the ugly.

c) If you’re talking about being masculine, you and your panel are going to demonstrate exactly what you mean…

Etc.

Location: 1 vote for Denver. Centrally located. And ok, that’s where I live

I’d like to see some sessions by different folks from Virtuousity. Bryan or Decker from AMP come to mind as well as Marie. Like Stephen Nash too. I wouldn’t mind attending co-ed sessions. It would be interesting to get men and women in the same room and talk about all the things Scot and Emily talk about. I would find that fascinating.

My two cents …

1.) Anything that’s interactive where I can get feedback from you, another coach, or another person attending the session. Something where it’s easy to meet friends in the same boat as me.

2.) I think a single day event would be most feasible logistically. I will much more likely attend if I don’t have to take off work… and if the event is not on my side of the country, I need to reserve Friday afternoon and Sunday evening for travel. This leaves Saturday for the seminar. Also, if you do a week long seminar, it’s ultimately going to be more expensive. I’m not sure I want to put down that kind of money unless I know I’m going to be blown away. My recommendation would be to start with day long seminars, and if they are successful, start offering week long Advanced Programs.

3.) Any city that’s easy to get to is fine. A smaller city with a good airport would be nice because we’d be big fish in a small pond. Big cities are fun but the energy level would be so high that it would take people out of their normal reality. Market the fact that you can be successful with women even in a small city, and you’ll get better results.

4.) Hosting some Virtuosity guests would be great. Could you get David Deida?

5.) Respective gender. If you make it coed, it puts unwanted pressure to mingle while the main focus of this seminar should be on self improvement. Furthermore, if it’s coed, it’s going to make it harder to talk honestly about MOTOS. Even if you and Emily do separate seminars and then have a mixer at the end…..hmm even then there’d still be a certain awkwardness because there would be a certain ambiguity as to whether the environment is fraternal or a place to hook up. Better to keep it one gender– there’s always the option for guys to split up into small groups and meet women at bars after the seminar if they want to get some practice.

6.) Again, anything interactive that’s not all lecture. I want to be able to meet people just like me, as well as people who can give me an honest critique of how I come across. Even if the coaches can’t help everyone, people can still make great strides helping each other if it’s the right chemistry of people and environment. You create the environment.

I haven’t been to a live event, but I still wanted to leave Scot feedback. I have listened to a lot of what he has to say (and watched him on YouTube), and I can say he has the depth of understanding as well as the breadth of knowledge that really is necessary in advising people with complex dating issues. His program on helping shorter men has been particularly valuable to me, and I strongly recommend it to men of shorter stature who feel their height is limiting their dating potential. Scot really does make you see things in a different way, and he is convincing when he explains why being a short man is not really a problem. It takes work, but I have faith that in the long run his advice will prove incredibly valuable. I would love to attend one of his events someday. Thanks, Scot!!

Hey Scot I love the idea, I also noticed how you didnt call them bootcamps. lol. Well if you did a live event here in Sydney Australia you know I would do my best to attend.

One thing you could do is do a cook for your date seminar, where you grab a handfull of guys and gals and take them to a kitchen and you cover cooking some basic dishes and teach game whilst waiting for the roast to cook or whatever.

A whole week course may be a bit of an informaiton overload. perhaps a weekend or even two Saturday’s in a row, to leave a week for the information in the first day to sink in.

And ofcourse after a full day seminar you would need to go out and grab a beer with your students - I still owe you a beer when you get to Sydney.

As for being together or seperate, I think it might work well if one day (or half a day if the whole thing is only one day) could be the guys and girls seperated, then for the 2nd half of the seminar have the guys and gals together, perhaps sitting guy, gal, guy, gal who knows, might be a good way to meet someone.

Be good, and have fun (yes i am stealing your tag line lol)

Dave

I agree with you coming out to Vegas. This place needs a true overhaul of masculine men and feminine women. I’d even go to southern Cali if I could make it happen.

I think as a huge beginning to the seminar you could have an xandy singles meeting for a few hours. A community gathering of sorts to give us all a chance to hang out and talk about what’s going on in everyone’s lives. With men and woman involved, some may find motos they click with.

As for topics, I’d say go over basics in body language and general communication, confidence and approach anxiety. Then have a couple hours or a day in the field. Come back the next day and go over some more in depth stuff.

I wouldn’t mind if both of you were hosting it together for the beginning and then going into separate groups for the depth of the seminar.

Inviting guests is definitely a plus. I’d love to see Zan and Carlos and others. You could do at least a 3 day seminar, or perhaps a day of basics, 1 simple field day, a 3rd day of seminar and vibing techniques, followed by a 4th day of field tests for longer approaches and interactions with vibing and then close it off with a 5th day of relationship management and key points of the entire seminar.

Value would be added by just making sure everyone gets a chance to grow and develop. Obviously a smaller seminar would be for the better but you could also record/film it and produce another product.

-Brandon

-Brandon

I’d really like to get in-depth about avoiding the friend zone (which is like Groundhog Day to me; it keeps happening over and over) and really finding out what a woman thinks about us guys.

I agree with most of the guys that a one day event might be the most beneficial as far as work schedules and leaving a more lasting impact.

As a Midwestern guy, I’d love it if you would come to Indianapolis. I’m not very likely to get on a plane so it would have to be close enough to drive.

I’d love to hear from the both of you, especially Emily’s perspective. As for guests, Amy Waterman is someone whose opinion I respect. That also goes for the AMP guys, Bryan and Decker.

I think I would like to have both gender and co-ed sessions. I think both sexes need to hear the honest truth of what the other thinks and that would open a healthy dialogue. I’m not too worried about having to mix or feeling uncomfortable. The women who would attend are the kind of women I’d like to get to know better anyway.

1) What topics, ideas or concepts would really get you excited about an X & Y Communications live event?

I would like an event where I walk in with no online profile, and at the end of it I walk out with one that you have helped me create. Not a list of “TODOs”, but an actual up and running page. Lots of tangable output.

2) Would you personally be more interested in a single day event or a more intensive one spanning several days?

either one.

3) What would be the best city or cities to hold such an event in? (Be SURE to weigh in for this one, because we’ll base any decisions almost 100% on YOUR input here)

Colorado Springs

4) How would you like the hosting structure to be? Would you like me to invite certain VIRTUOSITY or Click With Him guests? Should we always host as a team?

whatever is cheaper. Sometimes guest lecturers can be confusing because there is a lot of mixed messages between them - go direct, use routines, be natural, do cold approaches, do all online, be spiritual, use hypnosis/NLP, don’t use it, etc. I would rather just have one message at a time. no teaser messages - here is a taste - now buy my book for more.

5) Would you like to see events for each respective gender or have them be co-ed?

respective gender, so people don’t feel awkward

6) What creative ways do you think some major value could be added to the experience?

like I said - not more ideas and things to do. DO the exercises right at the seminar. Not a list of books to read. Stuff you can’t do in a book or DVD. Makeovers, body language, tonality, exercises, practicing approaches, routines, hypnosis etc. Not just lectures.

I’m a total seminar junkie, and the things that get everyone involved with a tangable output can be the longest lasting. Stuff like “You should read the selfish gene” is not as helpful.

email me private if you want more detail. I have been to MM, Charisma Arts, Tao of Dating, David D man transformation, Love systems superconference, Hypnotica, Ask Romeo, Tony Robbins, etc, and seen practically every “famous” PUA/guru live in person.

Be good

Scot,
What’s going on man? I remember I emailed you about a year ago asking about this, and now here it is.

I think the idea of having separate weekend seminars for guys/girls and then throwing them together at the end would be AWESOME. It’d give them confidence and knowledge, and then allow them to use it right away while they’re still running on momentum from the weekend’s seminars. Plus they’d all be single and ready to meet moto’s.

I’ve noticed that alot of subscribers for your newsletters as well as other dating advice newsletters out there are younger guys in the college/grad student range. It’s a tricky market segment because we typically don’t have as much money to throw around, but if you could come up with something targeted at them, I think you’d have a HUGE turnout.

I know if I heard about a seminar with enough time in advance, I’d make plans to be there.

As far as location, I’m rooting for the central California coast, but I’d settle for LA or SF.

Way to set the bar on what being a man is all about.

-Panch

PS. Thanks for the heads up on the AMP guys and on Race and Kelly. They both bring great material to the table. I don’t know much about a guy named Craig that David D did an interview with, but his stuff is awesome too.

It feels like it is just for men so count me out but thanks any way.

But go right ahead and make adjustments as you are going that way you can stay ahead of your game.

Sarahellen: Actually, we’d very much love to do events for both men and/or women. Right now, it looks like the guys are leaving most of the comments, which is why we need more input from the ladies!

We’ve had several phone calls on the subject from women, so it looks like some are just shy to post here on the blog…

Cheers,

Scot